But that's a totally different thing from what you said before. It wasn't about consensual and cabana boys enjoying it, it was benevolence, like they would be okay if you were cool to them. And it's not the same as the other thing you said which is that it was a total double-standard because with a guy it would be okay.
I mean, sexual preferences aside (some people like that stuff, okay but that's literally not what you were talking about) I think the general thing is, an arrangement which isn't enjoyable for both isn't cool whether you're a dude or a lady. So uh, yeah.