Re: Anon Emails
[Extended pause.] You're right, I have no bloody idea.
And if you tell anyone that that's me, I will deny all knowledge and make an aborted effort to break your nose.
A virgin? I think it's difficult to understand what she's interested in without asking her, but the assumption I'd make first is that perhaps it's safer holding onto a fantasy of what it's meant to be like without actually getting in to the messiness of it. You're not telling her no. You can't divest her of the fantasy and it's not your responsibility to say no for her. What you do is put an alternative on the table, something realistic, where clearly real feelings are engaged and there's a possibility it'll actually be satisfying. Imagination only goes so far.
Oh, don't be a twit. I didn't mean say it. But if you approach her thinking all you've bloody got to offer is her 'settling', then there's bloody nothing for her to go for. If you're going to actually bloody do it, you have to remember why she should want you, not why she shouldn't. You don't have to listen to me. I've not reached the level of the coffee-table pick-up but christ knows, I'm not an expert.