Re: Gwen R/Cris M
Communication is a science, ain't it? I don't think science and art are separate, so I'm gonna say it's both.
Chica, asking for that validation outright makes people feel vulnerable. People don't like feeling vulnerable, even less than they like feeling wrong. [...] You don't gotta accept her truth, chica. You don't gotta think she's right. But, you can accept that for her it's true. That's all you gotta do. Don't argue your truth over hers. Being right ain't always important. It depends, course, on the situation. But, for me, in my conversation with her, I could argue til I was blue in the face that not every cop was some bad guy who wanted to hurt her. It wouldn't matter. So I just told her, alright, if she changed her mind, she could always get change from the station. You don't hafta engage. [...] I want you to thinka a time when you asked for something or said something, when you really kinda wanted something else. You said you were just walking by, when really maybe you went looking for whoever. Your boyfriend and you, at the start. Why'd you do that, if you ever did?