I don't think I am, because what I'm getting at, what i'm really asking is who gets to choose what is 'privacy' and what is 'misrepresenting yourself'?
who gets to choose when its reasonable expectation for something to be shared, versus when its okay to hold onto it? who gets to determine when something should be said? because if the answer isn't 'everyone tells everything about themselves to everyone' then does there not enter some subjectivity?
i'm not trying to twist you around but i think you are treating this as if it is always very obvious and that anyone who does not hold to exactly the same view as you is intending to cause pain.