Re: Anon email: Sam/Jack
That's not what they are in my experience. In my experience, they're about having someone who wants to help take some of your shit, and who is willing to stick around even when things aren't pretty. It's not about putting someone in front of your own needs, although that happens at some points. It's about wanting someone else when you would have, before, wanted to be left alone.
No, I'm not. I've just imagined my dead wife with a sprog some other man knocked her up with. If I were just saying it, I'd be decidedly less irritable about it.