It is totally cheating! And she attends more to him than to herself, concentrating hard so she doesn't have to think about anything in the world except him, and getting him fully and utterly out of his head--she wants him disarmed, she wants him vulnerable, and she wants him to want her more than anything.
(And maybe to love her--she isn't sure whether that would be more of a victory, but she sort of wants it anyway.)