I've had a huge crush on the guy who lives across the hall from me for months. We smile and say hi in the hall, but I've never been brave enough to say anything to him. Last weekend I went to my best friend's hen night. The maid of honour had booked a stripping quidditch player for her - and it was Cute Neighbour!! I'm even more attracted to him now I've seen him mostly naked, but I can't ever date him because my friends wouldn't let me live it down.
What do I do?
Confused of Colchester
-------------
Wow, Confused, I can honestly say I've never been asked something like this before!
It depends just how much you like your neighbour; you say you've not really spoken, so the attraction's mostly physical at this stage - do you want to get to know him better? Or is it just a bit of good old-fashioned lust that'll fade? Unfortunately, you're the only one who can answer that.
I don't think there's any harm in asking him out for a drink - and you've definitely got an entertaining conversation starter! You don't need to tell your friends you're seeing someone - or that it's the stripper from your friend's hen do. If things get serious between you two, you'll have time to think about how to tell your friends. If they don't - well, no one else needs to know.
Above all, trust your instincts, and your heart. You don't want to miss out on something wonderful just because of a bit of embarrassment!