Well, if it makes you feel any better, you're probably a few steps ahead of Nebraska! *laughs*
Seriously, though, welcome to the list. And I completely feel you on the relationships thing--I actually kind of had my now-husband thrown at me by my older sister, the day I'd decided actively looking wasn't doing any favors for me anymore. Isn't life grand?
As for the music and books...I am interested in what you have to say, and would like to subscribe to your newsletter. :D Mind if I friend you?