We are all what our parents make us are we not. We aspire to be what they envision of us, Every parent sees a future for their child, better than the life they themselves had. And they simply try to make things better...
No matter the cost to themselves
'Messing up' Thats not what matters in the end, Things messed up can be righted again.
By thinking about them, thinking that you don't want to let them down you are already honouring them.