[Filtered to Sarah]
Sometimes getting something through the skull of a stubborn man--or Goblin--requires more firmness and finesse than threats of violence. It riles them up, starts posturing, testosterone begins to overfloweth, and so on.
Wolfram & Hart strikes me more as a goose full of bayonettes. Kidnap the wife and children plot? A bit daytime soapish for an organization with that many resources and diabolical brains bobbling about.
You'll be fine. I'm not saying it's set in stone the two of you will be together forever in constant bliss, but you've both got good heads on your shoulders and the willingness to fight for what you want. That will arm you against the worst of it--with the exception of your first morgage.