Ruby
I know you're not a child, Ruby. The child in this situation is Ben, who's hurt because his Uncle Sam isn't here anymore. The child is the one being hurt. You're just behaving like one. We've all tried to be understanding here, but you keep pushing and pushing until Sam barely sees his mother and father and brother and nephew...his human friends...
I hate to say it, but John was trying to scare you. Any parent will try to scare to keep their child safe. You realize that, don't you? That parents would die, kill, scare and not hesitate to harm anyone in the name of keeping a child safe? It's a very powerful bond, and nothing can be done to break it, even if the child is wanting space.
If you don't want to hurt anyone, you'll spend time with Sam AND his family. There'd be nothing wrong with you coming over and us all spending some time together, but I'd take it as a personal favor if you'd stop spending so much alone time with him. Call me a racist, call me a fool or just one of them, but I have my reasons. Sammy can have a whole new life, a lot going for him, if you'll just let him.