Heather
Well he's obviously not helping you now, so I think his plan's backfired already. It shouldn't be about whose got the bigger problems, not at all. Merlin knows I'm not the easiest person to deal with, but that's what love and marriage is all about, working through it without burying your head in the sand.
Someone should make sure he knows. I reckon his family should be making sure he knows that. I mean, it's not exactly the highest risk factor here, but it's not unknown to happen and given this, your friend, and Ruby missing, and... well, this city in the first place? I'd not be adding to it if I were him.