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I think it may depend on the man's situation. There are some men here who are in relationships, I know, which complicates things. Isaac and I agreed that we could be with other people while I was pregnant. I only asked him not to father another child while I am pregnant.
It is good to talk about it openly, Lady Mary. Giving your child to Lady Arva is certainly a very good choice and what we plan to do ourselves. There are those that are raising their child here. I believe that's Pepper's and Wedge's intention. You could always speak to them about their experiences with the resources we have available to us.
You should only do so once you're ready. No one is rushing you.