Don't get me wrong. I think giving babies to Arva is a totally valid choice. After all we're here to build the population, and we can grow it a lot faster if we don't have to raise all the children ourselves, and I'm sure they'll be amazingly well cared for and loved, because they're being raised by a goddess. Plus some people aren't ready to be parents, but they still want to contribute in that way, which is a wonderful thing.
But Chloe and I wanted to be parents together. We went into the pregnancy knowing that we were going to keep the baby, so we let ourselves get attached right from the beginning, before he was even born.