"It's not that there's no choice... " he started but then paused. For some people there was no choice; his background had given him one.
"I can only tell you what I've experienced, Ryan, and it won't be the same for everyone. For me, well, I fall a little in love with a whole lot of people but there are a few that make me spark, that I want to know more, want to spend more time with, find something deeper with. I could choose not to and maybe nothing more happens. Maybe they continue to be my friend and I choose to be content with that. Maybe they find someone else and I regret lost chances. But I can't imagine not loving."