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It is unfortunate, but there is little we can do about people like that.
Oh, we needn't rely upon them, but it may be that spending time with some of them serves our purposes.
My cousin said nothing of the sort. He did tell me, however, that you came from the right sort of family and cared about preserving our traditions, and that is far more important to me than your present troubles.
If you'll give me your address, I'll send Kizzy and Lilsey over to you for a couple of afternoons a week to see to the domestic matters. You need time to recover from your illness and you shouldn't be reduced to drudgery.
It might be worth a bit of flattery and telling him how much safer I'd feel with him there if it meant that I could keep him away from trouble.