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The fact that you are able to write to me means that you aren't a ghost, so it can't be about settling unfinished business, if that's what you're fretting about.
According to my father I shouldn't use any word that my grandmother would disapprove of or not understand. She's very ancient. So...you aren't completely wrong? Except of course I'd never say such a thing in front of the adults.
Do you really think anything you could do would Very well. We're agreed. I'd shake your hand if I could.