Yeah. It's scary. It's supposed to be scary. They do it to scare. To remind you no matter what you do and no matter how good you are at it, they can still treat you like you're less. Like your body doesn't belong to you, it belongs to him.
And some of 'em, if you say, "Don't talk to me that way. Don't talk to anyone that way," they say, "I thought you wanted to be equal." Or "I thought you didn't need protecting," or "Look at Miss La Di Dah." Like wanting to be a person is wanting to be special. Is something you don't deserve.