I think that I understand. I don't hold with keeping grudges, I'll say that. Better to lose your temper and have the matter out and dealt with than to stay angry for weeks, or longer.
Now that might be sound advice for some fellows, so I don't blame you for giving it. My name is Arcturus Black, and my family line is the oldest magical line in Britain. My father is one of the most influential men in the entire country. He says that the school is doing the right thing because boys oughtn't to be spoilt and pampered, but there isn't any danger of not having servants at home! We own dozens of house-elves.
My cousin says that. That the future isn't ever set, not until it has happened. I like that better than the alternative. But that doesn't make things easier for you. I'm sorry that your husband was so set on not knowing.