so like. there's...a lot. that happened. so here's how we're playing it. remus was definitely moon hangry when he told alastair no about his sister but he super did not tell him it was because domestic violence is a family matter. he said it was lack of immediate resources or something idk.
SO THE ORDER. they have not been "doing nothing." or been on hiatus. or whatever. remus and kingsley have been developing an underground network of allies, actively recruiting, trying to save muggleborns, etc. if you want your character to have been recruited to the order and they have someone already established to back them up (and you don't mind handwaving), just tell one of us because congratulations, you're in the order now. we're going to have the da be a thing that works with/in the order, orpheus was never a thing, blah blah we'll make that an ic thing as soon as we cool down about harry being alive, ok? okay good talk.