richie/matt I NEED ZEN-- If you want to be with just me, then I want that too. If you want to swing sometimes and seek out the lady gardens, fine, just be honest about it. I'm less excited about you having an emotional connection with someone else, since I'm not sure I'd be good with polyamorous stuff. Swinging is different than polyamory though.
But yeah, think about what you want. Hopefully my sexual past isn't a dealbreaker since I literally cannot change that.