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I disagree. I think that now that you're conscious of your decisions and how they affect other people — truly, not in the spoiled Prince way you used to — that you'll discover a lot about yourself. I thought I was nothing but a trained killer who caused misery and suffering everywhere I went, and while I am still a trained killer, I'm working to be better. Every day. And I have some great friends, including a former pain in my ass who has turned out to be a very dear friend.
I think it can happen. It'll just take some time for you to adjust to this new version of yourself. Now, if that's not something you want, then that's a whole new can of worms, and that's okay too. Some people don't want romantic relationships, and that's entirely valid too.