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Tweak says, "Complaining isn't conversation"

Eliza Schuler (elschu) wrote in newhaven_mesg,
@ 2016-02-03 19:15:00

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!february2016, eliza schuler

I've not read the book Me Before You, but I have a very good idea what it's going to be about after seeing the trailer. I haven't been able to wrap my head around why people put themselves through the ordeal of seeing movies with stories like that. ~~Especially now.~~

I've studied the human mind for the past six years, and I'm still mystified. ~~Do not cry, do not cry, do not cry~~

I just can't understand people who enjoy tragedies when there's enough tragedy around us without fabricating it. ~~time to hide the photo albums~~

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	zjnolan 2016-02-04 02:42 am UTC (link)
	Maybe because it's happening to someone else. To distract you from your own sadness. But that does sound unusually depressing, if Wikipedia isn't lying to me. (Reply to this) (Thread)

	elschu 2016-02-04 02:54 am UTC (link)
	Perhaps. To me it just seems like it's bringing more sadness into your life than you need to, when there are so many options out there that distract without upsetting. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	zjnolan 2016-02-04 02:56 am UTC (link)
	Maybe they're for people who don't have much sadness, then. Or who want some control over their sadness. They can be sad at this, they can have their cry, and then they can leave and put it behind them. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	elschu 2016-02-04 02:59 am UTC (link)
	It must be nice to be able to do that. (Reply to this) (Parent)

	mel_moon 2016-02-04 04:25 am UTC (link)
	Maybe the people who tend to enjoy the tragedies, have yet to have a tragedy of their own. ~~If they knew real pain, they wouldn't enjoy it as much.~~ Must be nice to live such fairy tale lives. (Reply to this) (Thread)

	elschu 2016-02-04 04:30 am UTC (link)
	I believe the term for it on social media is emotional porn. It allows people to step into the lives of someone who has been hurt in a way they haven't. It allows them to step into the shoes of someone else, say oh poor you, then step out again into their happy lives, feeling proud of themselves for being able to say they were moved. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	mel_moon 2016-02-04 04:36 am UTC (link)
	Emotional porn sounds like torture. And excuse me while I eye roll. Really? They feel proud of themselves for being able to say they were moved? That makes me want to throat punch people. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	elschu 2016-02-04 04:42 am UTC (link)
	We all like to say we're people who are truly in touch with ourselves and our emotional inner world, but since we tend to shove anything emotional down and bottle it up, we need to be able to get drive by doses of the less pleasant stuff to remind themselves they are capable of feeling those things as long as they are at someone else's expense. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	mel_moon 2016-02-04 04:50 am UTC (link)
	Or, we could just ignore all of the emotional shit and not worry about if we can feel it or not. Seems like a better plan. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	elschu 2016-02-04 04:51 am UTC (link)
	That doesn't work. We're not meant to be unfeeling. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	mel_moon 2016-02-04 05:08 am UTC (link)
	We can try. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	elschu 2016-02-04 05:09 am UTC (link)
	And we'll be under so much stress that we'll fall apart. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	mel_moon 2016-02-04 05:16 am UTC (link)
	~~That is what sex and pain are for~~ Or become stronger than we ever thought possible. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	elschu 2016-02-04 05:17 am UTC (link)
	No. Only isolated, afraid, and numb. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	mel_moon 2016-02-04 05:35 am UTC (link)
	I like numb. Numb is good. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	elschu 2016-02-04 05:37 am UTC (link)
	Then why are we having this conversation? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	mel_moon 2016-02-04 05:45 am UTC (link)
	~~Because people think that I need to feel things and they keep chipping away at my walls and it's just too much~~ You're right. Guess it is a bit pointless. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	elschu 2016-02-04 05:52 am UTC (link)
	Then I guess we're done. (Reply to this) (Parent)