[ filter: ra ]
Pfft, you're not terrible. You're not used to it. Look, when I was a wife, I did my best but it was weird. But I think...I could do better as me and if it was someone worth me.
You start with food. Food breaks the ice and fills in any awkward silences. GOOD and filling food, by the way. I'm not talking about some joint that serves small, delicate portions. Don't sit outside and eat. Too many distractions then. You want to limit that. Keep it a short lunch date.
Oh. Yes. Make sure it's lunch, NOT dinner. Dinner can imply a little more intimacy since, you know, it's at night and all. And brunch is weird, to be honest. I've done it, probably will do again but it's weird. Definitely do lunch. Coffee is too short and nothing will fill in the gaps.
Also, casual wear. And shave. AND brush your hair. ...and compliment her but not too much. Just to offer a friendly air but not romantic or that vibe of 'hey bb I'm totes into you'. Because you just want to break the ice, am I right?
Ok, so back to food. When you should be talk between those mouthfuls, the conversation should be light and thoughtful. Not about the weather, never the weather but about what you missed and about what you're doing now. Maybe about being glad to see family or catching up on something. It should be meaningful but light.
Also, don't you dare ask her to meet you over text. CALL her so she hears your voice. Unless you don't have her number in which case you better filter to her about wanting to see her for lunch.