Re: menelaus
Some of his issues are very, very obvious and some are a little blanketed by his efforts to be a better father/husband/etc. For example, he hasn't really fucked up being a father since before Zurvan II so I tried to imply that through his initial trouble with accepting Hebe after his wife's death. After that, his total failure to register that his little girl had become a little woman with a love interest was also supposed to be a hint that while he tries he's never going to be an attentive father like...er, perhaps Hector. I can't even use one of my own as an example because I just realized majority of my men aren't really stellar dads (wtf?). Despite his fail as a dad, he does want to make some attempt to make it up to Hermione, though let's not count on him being amazing. But he really is very proud of her if that helps at all.
Helen's his main source of affection and strife. Although he loves her, he struggles with dealing with her. As a man who once had concubines WHILE married to her, he made the choice to not cheat on his wife here. Yes, this is hard for him though he's been successful for nearly two years which is a nice little record. No, he's not blind to all the hotties on the community. No, he's not so perfect as to not ponder what it would be like to be with them. He's not freaking saint but he won't tell or push beyond that.
He has had a growing and powerful frustration with his wife who he feels he has a very one-sided relationship. He doesn't know where she lives, for a long time he didn't have her number (and I can't recall if he does now). The only way he could surprise her was through her agency. He has attempted to be romantic while failing miserably at it because that's not his thing. He has remained undemanding of her, hasn't invaded her life or pressed to see her relations. Instead, he has invited her with him to different places, including to see his family and be with them during the holidays. Menelaus has been as good as he possibly can be. It wasn't easy but he's doing it out of love, the word that he can't say because each time he wants to, something goes wrong. Even his hope to propose to her had been shot down by Zurvan I and he's postponed that because he doesn't know if a good time will come up again. Or even if Helen will respond well to it considering how strained everything is between them. He is deeply possessive but it's fair to point out out he wouldn't demand her to turn into a housewife if they lived together. But he wouldn't tolerate a good many things that a single woman might enjoy.
Menelaus, again, feels like the lone man making any effort and it's stretched him thin to the point of transparency. Knowing that she won't let him in after all this time is devouring him in a very bad way. He is also unaware that she's even been cheating on him with her own twin brothers. The overall lack of trust after all this time eats away at him, makes him less tolerable toward the person he loves and though he rigidly is standing by his decision to be faithful to her, he really won't be surprised if it ends one day. He's pretty much at that point, lacking faith in his relationship and waiting it out more than hoping for the future. He is still very proud, very stubborn and obedience is not his thing. He's the son of Atreus, brother to Agamemnon and was the king of Sparta.
Right those, those two issues are his biggest. I'll add more later when I can think of others that may play a significant role.