Xander perked up a little at the words 'not exclusive'. There was hope yet.
"So uh, he wouldn't, he wouldn't mind if I was to ask you if you wanted to go out for dinner sometime?" Xander asked hopefully, voice soft, stumbling over his words. "Maybe? Y-you don't have to say yes right now, or uhm, or at all, but, I've been thinking, and I uh, yeah."