not the most articulate answer but: she wants a safe place!??! life isnt exactly the most safest thing alltogether, so how should fandom be different?! slash fans gets attacked all the time, so gets het fans, i assume. and the average fanfic writer, no matter what they write, gets to hear all the time, that they could use their time productive.
maybe its the safest thing not to read at all, and just watch tv?!?! eerr, wait, i dont think, thats safe, too :D