Sex is generally portrayed pornographically, with an emphasis on penetration
Gosh. Sex between men often involves penetration. WHO KNEW.
No hint of lesbianism is ever permitted.
Except in femslash. Um. Or fic which has more than one relationship/encounter depicted.
This whole article is really odd. I just can't relate to most of the stuff this person says must be my motivation. I don't care about teasing out "gay subtext" in the canon. I prefer it when fic doesn't deal with the characters' sexual orientations in so many words (i.e. actually using words like "gay", depicting characters realizing and coming to terms with it, etc.), but rather took them as read and just got on with the *story* and the sex. I don't care if Severus is gay or straight or bi or a strawberry. Shut up and somebody suck him off already. ^_-
Also, and this may actually relate in some way to what this person is saying about male dominance, but often the male characters in a given fandom are just more interesting to write about. It depends on your fandom of course, but Harry Potter, for instance, is very weak on compelling female characters.
Hundreds and hundreds of heterosexual women writing erotic stories for each other in order to turn one another on…is it just me, or is that starting to sound a bit lesbian?
I do want to entertain other people, and yes it is a way to talk about sexual desires I am still coping with "owning" and expressing directly. But I don't feel that turning on other women is my goal. Kinda weird to think about it in those terms actually.
we'll be able to properly focus on whether exchanging eroticism at a distance is a form of "having sex."
There's already a word for that: Teledildonics. Although I think it's normally used to refer to things like video-phone-sex.
When it comes to fic with sexual content, I like there to be at least one person with a penis in the mix because, you know, I like teh cock. I am heterosexual, yes, so since in some sense I identify with female characters, if they are receiving sexual pleasure or romantic attention I want that to be from a man. I have no problem with femslash, but I can't relate to it on a gut level, so I just don't get joy out of it.
Conversely, I like to give sexual pleasure to men, so I like to hear about them receiving such, but I'm not picky on the sex of the person doing the giving, because I don't feel a need to identify with them (although I might if they were female). If both (or all) the characters are men, then it's like having my cake and eating it too; there's a double (triple...) dose of teh cock.
I dunno. I just like to see people enjoying sex and passion. I must have missed the memo about that being a bad thing?