ginmar: Oh, Jesus Christ on a pony (probably NSFW) - And now the case has blown up, with a combination of slut- and prude- shaming, as if having boundaries and wanting them to be respected is some DaDa brand of outrageous French theoretical commie pinko radical hippie free love bomb-throwin' un-American traitorous you-don't-support-the-troops puppy-kickin' act of sedition that will burn the flag, bring down the Republic, hurl the Founding Fathers from their graves and toss them at the feet of incontinent pigeons and just in general spoil the good times that would be had by all were it not for those spoil sport PITA repressed prudish just-relax eejits who just need to loosen up. -
sohotrightnow: Apparently fandom is talking about consent and victim-blaming this week! - Look at the responses that thenyxie and her friends have made, the accusations they've thrown about -- and those are "just" words on the Internet. Look at the fact that last year, fandom collectively decided that an attempted rapist was one of its favorite characters of all time. I honestly can't say that I blame anyone for not feeling comfortable about speaking up about the situation except under cover of anonymity. -
nu_breed: So... - I fucked up. Majorly. And I feel like a fucking idiot. I trusted someone who had never given me a reason not to and had always supported me and cared for me in almost two years of friendship. Sometimes I let my loyalty to my close friends cloud my judgement, and I’m going to endeavour never to do that again. -
veronamay: a confession, and some currency - I feel somewhat responsible for the situation blowing up so publicly, given I encouraged [info]thenyxie to post. I feel ridiculous for not asking for details at the time, instead of simply assuming that she was the wronged party. -
mistresscurvy: The Fallacy of "Personal Responsibility" - women do not serve each other or make each other stronger or more powerful by prescribing the 'right' way to respond to someone else's harm of us. I will never sit in judgment for what you do or do not do in response to an assault, coersion, harassment or any other form of violence. I will support you in whatever way you need in order to heal. Your body, mind and soul are your own; it is never your fault that someone else decides not to respect that truth. -
tofty: confessional - Hey, if you hold equal power with the person you don’t want to fuck, then that’s great for you. You say no! I’m proud of you for it! I myself, never a great nay-sayer, have learned (at great personal cost and with much backsliding) to say no when I absolutely have to.But what about the ones who haven’t learned? The kids? The people younger and drunker? The pressured and the impaired and the powerless? The disenfranchised and the voiceless? The people who’ve never had to defend themselves before but have ten seconds to learn to do it before something terrible happens? -
rm: sundries, now with extra nutrients - Going to a ConCom with an issue is hard.I've done it exactly once, and I think you all know me as loud, self-confident, and as someone who often feels very little mercy for those I feel have wronged me. But you know what? I felt like a fucking asshole the time I had to do it. And, I had to be bolstered by my friends who saw the incident in question. -
stoney321: Only saying this because of the continuous emails I'm getting. And because I'm really proud of us. - The one thing to come out of the original talks about what happened 2 years ago at a fan convention that has now escalated into a more universal discussion on what women face every day is that we are finally talking about the shit that has been done to us WITHOUT GUILT OR SHAME. Because we have nothing to feel guilty about. -
setissma: Fandom, I think you've known me long eno - In the real world, unlike in fandom, there is no such thing as dubious consent. Dubious consent isn't consent. You give consent or you don't. And since this is something that a large segment of the population seems to be fuzzy on, you are allowed to change your mind. -
impertinence: saying no. - Being pressured to go up to a hotel room where you're then pressured into watching an orgy is not the same as being raped, but it comes from the same rape culture. It's part of the same cycle of abuse and silence that churns out the statistics - 1 in 4, 1 in 6, the shit we've all heard and read. They differ in degree but they are part of the same problem, and I will absolutely never accept the idea that being made to feel afraid is anyone but the culprit's fault. -
hederahelix: Wincon, Questions of Consent, and Our Own Personal Responsibility To Back Each Other Up - From where I sit, my code of personal ethics means that as a woman I bear a personal responsibility to back other women up when I see them being harassed with any behavior that lands anywhere along the continuum of sexual violence.//[...]If I'm at a con, as a con goer or as an organizer, and I hear that a woman has been exposed to any actions on that continuum, and those actions don't meet safe, sane, and consensual guidelines, then I'm pretty sure my personal responsibility extends to making sure that I do what I can to stop that behavior. -
ix_tab: A culture of silence (contains discussion about rape, suicide, victim blame, will be triggering) - It terrifies me that so many people are willing to silence the voice of victims, that every time something like this happens in fandom (the victim blaming, i am talking about) it's the same voices speaking up and saything THIS IS NOT FUCKING RIGHT, and there are pages of comments of people getting it, and then it happens again. -
jay_linden: Okay...so now I have thoughts. - And I've noticed that on the internet, even more than in person (other people's mileage may vary), that when people take a position or opinion on the internet, by god, they're gonna take that hill and fortify it with the bodies of--no, wait. That's Firefly. But still--it's the same principle. Once a position is made, it's rarely backed down from. People will defend their initial position to the point of insanity and back again. And this time? That's not always proving to be the case. -
cereta: Responsibility - I believe in personal responsibility, too, although I believe that personal responsibility is as much about taking responsibility for how you treat others as it is about protecting yourself. But I also believe in social and collective responsibility. -
thebratqueen: I'm not even supposed to be here today! (rape culture remix) - I'm all for personal responsibility. But there's huge differences between recognizing and making amends for when you've fucked up verses being in an uncomfortable to dangerous situation and not being able to teleport yourself out of it because you're nothing but a slacker. And yes, the latter involves victim blaming. Because you are blaming the victims. -
seperis: so this word 'weakness', it's not working for me - You weren't, they weren't, we weren't hurt because of our skirt, the alley, our body language, alcohol, smiling, dancing, singing, or because we were weak and say that last part twice because it needs saying, we were not weak; it was because someone hurt us.We were stronger afterward, right, but we were strong before, too. -
stoney321: A Mother's Day Plea, disguised as a rant. Many swear words abound. - We're all so supportive of each other, we all love to boost each other up and make each other feel like they can be who they are and enjoy each other's company. Except that's really not true, is it? We are so ready to dog pile on any person that has an opinion that goes against the little random list of people we've clicked a button to claim as friends. -
bookshop: Fannish spaces, girls, and the culture of silence. - Fandom perpetuates rape culture by silencing women, and we silence women when we remove women from our own narratives, when we refuse to write or read about women, when we talk about how female characters are stupid, slutty, saucy, too strong or too weak to enjoy, not written well enough, not worthy of as much attention as the boys are. -
helens78: I don't always want your reality. Sometimes I want the what if. - If reality is the primary source canon for a given piece of media, then sometimes that reality is flawed. Sometimes the imaginary stories are the ones with heart and soul. Sometimes the What If? stories are the ones in the universes I want to hear about -- and stay in. -
damned_colonial: Mercedes Lackey's and Jim Butcher's fanfic policies, and how Creative Commons does/doesn't work - There is no way to "license [your work] as derivative fiction". That's not what a CC license does. It doesn't say "This is derivative fiction." It says, at most, "you may create derivative fiction based on this." Likewise, you cannot license [your work] as non-commercial fiction under CC, if by that you mean "This is my work and I don't intend to make money off it." You can, however, license it for non-commercial use by others. -
eleanorjane: Roleplaying and Fanfic, or why GRRM makes no sense to me. - Both fanfiction and roleplaying involve creative engagement with the canon world, using the existing canon characters and setting to tell new stories or explore old ones in more detail or a different way. The only significant difference is that roleplaying is necessarily collaborative, and fanfic doesn't have to be, and that has no bearing on GRRM's disapproval of fanfic. I just can't see how you can logically approve of one, and disapprove of the other. -
dexfarkin: Here It Goes Again... - In general, there are three main avenues through which to attack fanfic. They fall into creative, legal, and ethical arguments. -
boogieshoes: yet another opinion on fanfic... - Stitching is a respectable hobby. Gardening is a respectable hobby, even when people suck at it, like I do. The same with painting, woodwork, etc ad nauseum. Why isn't fanfic respectable? Especially since most people who write it do it at least, in part, to think of something other than work. Like, you know, a hobby. -
executrix: Meta: Wronging Wrights? - I never feel at all comfortable saying anything about the copyright law of derivative and transformative works, because there really isn't enough precedent to reach a useful conclusion. I mean, it's like trying to build a three-D model of the Millennium Falcon out of matchsticks. In Flatland. -
yuki_onna: Fan the Flames - This argument is already over. It is a generational one. You've got a whole host of authors coming into their own who grew up with fanfic as a fact of life, or even committed it themselves. Who have been messing about with creative commons since forever. A whole generation who sees fanfic as, not a nuisance, but a mark of success, a benchmark--if someone wrote fanfic about my book, then I've really made it. -
pir8fancier: Fanfiction and Authors - I am an author, too. I also write fanfiction, so my perspective covers both sides of this argument. Let me tell you: you are naive. The game has changed. -
twtd: Some thoughts and questions about rpf and it's relationship to femslash fandom - Yes, I know that all of the rest of fandom seems to have already had this debate and moved on. Femslash fandom, however, has not. Rather than debating this and letting people make up their own minds, a few select, yet influential people have decided that rpf is icky and mentions of it's existence are to be avoided except to occasionally tell people that it is icky, they are deviants, and that it will not be tolerated. Actual conversations do. not. happen. There is a general culture of shame. I don't like that, so guess what? I'm having that conversation. Right here. Right now. -
sqbr: Disability in Speculative Fiction: Monsters, mutants and muggles - Fiction reflects social attitudes, and the social attitudes to disabled people tend to suck. Disabled people are presented as scary, pathetic, exotic, demanding, laughable, etc.But some tropes are popular/unique to SF. -