Ianto, I love you. [The reach of yesterday is great. She means it. She just wouldn't normally say it without more provocation.] You're a great friend and confidant. I want all the best things for you. And I definitely want you to feel like you have someone, more than one someone even that you can go to. But think about what you said.
You're the one making this choice to not go to Jack with these things. He isn't getting the chance to fail or succeed with them. I understand it not being easy and I'm sure Jack is part of that. But right now you don't really know how it would work if you actually did it.