Maybe if the wardens had brought me here before I knew, I would be okay with that. [ but her relationship to lying to people in order to protect them has changed dramatically, and she's trying trying really hard not to hold that against him right now. having seen those films doesn't mean he had full context to those events or a way of knowing what was going on in her life beyond what was shown. ]
It's not a trade off, Spencer. I don't want you to confide in me, because you feel like you owe me the same sort of insight into your life that you have into mine. If you choose to, it's because I'm your friend, not some slave girl in a holofilm.