I know it's not, and I'm not trying to say that it is. Loss isn't something that should be simplified.
[ file under: advice she should be taking for herself. better than trying to save every single alderaanian remnant possible and jumping into battles almost as if she wants to get hurt, because she feels she deserves it after what she let happen to her planet. logically, she knows it wasn't her fault, that there was nothing she could have done to stop tarkin from making that call and that he likely had his mind set on testing his weapon on alderaan before her ship was even boarded. but logic doesn't make you feel any better, and she'll likely never stop blaming herself. ]
Well then, consider yourself in good company. I'm pretty messed up, too.
[ the subject of biological father is on the tip of her tongue, but she holds back. this is about him, not her. ]