Thanks. [Its been about two years now and he still misses her and still hates what happened but it's different now than it was. It's something he can live with, and a lot of that is thanks to Jack.]
I don't think I'll ever stop loving her or stop missing her, but that doesn't mean I don't love Jack. It took me a long time to stop pushing him away after what happened, and I think it took him just as long to forgive me for everything, but loving each other now doesn't take away from what I had with her or what he had with John or anyone else over the years. I don't think you love just one person for your entire life but I don't think that means anything you might have with a person you care about is less special. I don't know how long it's going to hurt him to have lost her or how long he might push you away but I don't think grieving over her means he loved her more than you or cares about you less. I pushed Jack away because having feelings for him made me feel like I was losing her all over again. Like I had to hold onto that pain and not let myself be happy because she as gone.