Hiding who you really are isn't easy. I know that must have been difficult for you. [ she does remember that time she woke up looking like a romulan and had to play the part of a high-ranking romulan to help a resistance movement do something she hadn't been aware of until she'd been kidnapped. that had been fun. ]
That must change how you act around other people, as well. I would be much easier to simply come forward with your identity from the start.
[ so was ned the only reason she'd done it this way? ]