I don't know how it works either, Elena. If I did, then maybe I would have been able to help you.
[ she knows she can't tell her what to do, all Bonnie can do is advise. ]
You should be able to make your own choices without having some 'bond' determine them for you. I understand that. [ Bonnie knows that she wouldn't want the same for herself. ]
Have you tested it out? See if it worked? Or do you plan on doing that later.