I don't think gender should have anything to do with having the confidence to ask questions and take initiative. I imagine if I ever someday wanted to have sex with someone I'd just ask them.
Lots of women are really stupid about relationships, though. Like my stepmother. She was a geneticist but she gave up her work to...manage Daddy's scheduling? I don't even know what she does now but it was a really pointless sacrifice to leave her job like that and my mother-