At home, my family name may gather me more or less regard depending on the company and the context. For a long time my father was not in the king's favor and being a Marshal was not to political advantage. It's a capricious sort of world that way. It matters, but it isn't the only thing that matters.
Yes. Proper forms of address and courtesies aren't observed here. I had noticed that. It is very odd, but I take it as a cultural curiosity rather than a personal slight.
You do have negative opinions of me. It may be polite to say that you don't, but you do. You don't like the fact that I didn't marry for the same reasons as people in your culture, and you don't believe any of my daily work has any value. If you were me, your life wouldn't be worth living.
If you're going to hold objectionable opinions, own to them.