If I didn't die after I get home, I'd go find whomever did this and punch them in the nose after we invent multi-dimensional travel.
God, no. Fuck being pitied. I want you to realize here peoples' skills and character matter, not their birth. If you want to be treated well and respected, you need to earn it, you don't get it for being a lady. Conversely, nobody's going to discount you because you're a woman either. Works all ways.
Be proud of them all you want. Just don't feel you're entitled or that they're better than families without fancy titles.