Just in your head. Yards better than your fellows, though. I like the ones that suggest I deserve to be eaten by zombies. Or who celebrated when I 'died'. Morbid assholes.
Same. Some people prefer to be very picky about their sexual partners, since you know, you're naked with another person and amplification is a thing. Others seek it out because it's one of the few ways to get human contact. People's coping mechanisms aren't my concern, but keeping them from handling things in the best way for their circumstances is.