Yes and that's where your oh-so-charming analogy breaks down, so I'll drop it.
I try to explain it and you still don't even begin to see. I'd be taken even less seriously if I started making a fuss about it all. The trick is to recognize the limitations of one's situation and work within them. When I'm no longer young and pretty I'll still be a Black. I'll always have that if I don't do anything tremendously ill-advised.
I don't mind if you laugh. You wouldn't, if you understood, but there are several reasons why I don't believe you can.