I actually have inkgeist to thank for that line of reasoning, because it occurred to me while engaged in a brief back-and-forth in the comments of the "Expecto Patronum!" art, over on lj. See, the reason that I didn't have a wolf as a potential patronus for Remus was because I had reasoned that the wolf was not an aspect of himself of which he was terribly proud. So, it suddenly hit me that the same could--and should--be applied to the patronus of whoever loves him. If that person knew him well enough, then he or she would understand that the wolf was not something that Remus would ever want to have used as an association with him.