It's how I bond. Everyone I've met so far has had their own share if awfulness. Have to keep tradition going.
But yeah that sucks. Had to decide if my sister lived or died a terrible and slow death and kind of didn't consult her on this. Not the same so you win that point.
My city had more blood mages then anything I've ever seen and it's Knight Commander was a paranoid butch that made Harrow ed mages tranquil in sheer suspicion. What's yours like?