[... Gets that he's approaching this as the neutral party, and that he didn't have to tell him any of this, so he's not trying to be like lol well sucks to be you. But. Yeah. Your situation kinda sucks, dude, aside from the fact that you, unlike everyone else, will eventually get to see a loved one again alive.]
... Just means you have to make the most of what you do get. Even if it isn't the way you wanted it.