Alright then... [running his hand over his back absently, soothing] Remember when you did finally get somewhere with Arthur and you were terrified you'd messed it up, and I told you to talk to him? And then you didn't and mooned about him for a while, but then things settled as soon as you actually listened to me?
This is another situation where you should listen to me. Because I'm right and whenever you listen to me, things go your way. Whatever you're thinking the best approach is, just do the opposite of that.