[Well, it's obvious this is very personal to her, but since he's just met her, it's not like he can just outright ask about it.]
I wonder what it is others like us hope for, here. To go back or stay here. [Yes, he's picked up this much-- many people seem very happy here, and some he's met have said as much, that this isn't a bad place to be in. It only makes sense some would come from a place that's far worse... and wouldn't be too inclined to go back.]