... Everyone deserves to be loved and remembered. You deserve to be cared for. That doesn't make you selfish, it makes you human.
And for her... I can't speak for her, but I think it's easy enough to say that loving someone could never be a burden. It gives you strength. [...] Losing that... there aren't many who would willingly chose to forget the person they love. Even if it's painful, it's still better to feel it than nothing at all.