Barry. You know what Slade did to my mother. I get it. It doesn't stop, but it gets easier. Better. For a while
It's not judging. It's not wanting you to make mistakes that will hurt you and get in the way of everything you've worked to be.
This isn't real. What happened at home still happened. You'll have to find a way to deal with it that's real for there. I don't know him as anything but someone we had to stop. I don't know Iris except as someone you care about. Your life is your life. But hiding in something never makes the rest of it stop. It's always waiting for you when you won't look at it.