I imagine you both could have done a lot of things differently. But what's that they say? Shoulda, woulda, coulda.
And you told her this when? If you'd already attacked and drugged her, there was no point in expecting anything but resistence.
Yeah, yeah. The poor baby got treated badly by mommy and daddy and big brother. I've had a run down of the sob story. That doesn't make a man willing to join a terrorist organization and kill people in their name unless he's got another screw loose.