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ᴀᴅᴀɪɴᴇ ᴀʙᴇʀɴᴀᴛʜ (portential) wrote in jurassiccitycom,
@ 2017-03-31 00:05:00

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barry allen / the flash, harrison wells, leonard snart / captain cold

text to harry wells.

✉ How did you propose to Tess?

text to len.

✉ So, what do you think about marriage?
✉ Like as a general concept.

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	return texts. fatherfirst 2017-03-31 12:16 am UTC (link)
	✉ Actually. ✉ She proposed to me. ✉ And it was less of a proposal. ✉ Than telling me that if I was going to keep her awake for 2 and a half nights straight, I had better damn well make an honest woman of her soon enough. (Reply to this) (Thread)

	return texts. portential 2017-03-31 12:20 am UTC (link)
	✉ Oh. ✉ Okay. ✉ Wow. I didn't really need to know that much. ✉ Two and a half nights? ✉ Never mind. ✉ So...I mean...Joe's not here. And my dad is...yeah. So...I could use some advice? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	return texts. fatherfirst 2017-03-31 12:39 am UTC (link)
	✉ Yes? ✉ That's not that odd. ✉ We'd stay up for five nights in a row sometimes when we were really trying to bang something out. ✉ Two and a half days was a relatively short marathon session. ✉ We had a lot of research to get through. ✉ I'll do what I can, Barry. ✉ What's worrying you? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

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portential
2017-03-31 12:52 am UTC (link)

✉ Research.
✉ Right. Yeah. You're totally right. Who hasn't researched for days.
✉ So the thing is, I've always known I wanted to get married.
✉ I mean...my mom and dad loved each other so much and their marriage was...perfect.
✉ And I really love Len. And I know I want that with him.
✉ I just don't know if he wants that. Or how to go about that. Or anything really.

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	return texts. fatherfirst 2017-03-31 12:58 am UTC (link)
	✉ Have you not talked about it before? ✉ Even just how he might feel about the institution in general? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	return texts. portential 2017-03-31 01:16 am UTC (link)
	✉ Not really. ✉ I mean...he didn't have the best example of marriage. ✉ But I don't know if that means he doesn't want it at all. ✉ He doesn't like paperwork. But apparently that's a criminal thing. ✉ You know...courthouses. And warrants. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

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fatherfirst
2017-03-31 01:23 am UTC (link)

✉ All of that stuff is superfluous.
✉ Paperwork, courthouses.
✉ You can easily have someone else deal with all of that.
✉ The issue that would be the most concerning would be the lack of a good example.
✉ And what was taken away from the one that was had.
✉ I mean, things like that can sour someone's perspective entirely.
✉ Maybe even make something that official seem like a trap?
✉ You know, you can just go buy a set of rings without all of the rigmarole involved, right?
✉ Ceremony is ceremony but as long as the relationship strength is there, all of that is, well.
✉ Superfluous.

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	return texts. portential 2017-04-11 01:49 am UTC (link)
	✉ You're right. ✉ Len and I don't need to get married. ✉ We already have a great relationship and we love each other. ✉ The rest is just...stuff. ✉ Thanks, Harry. (Reply to this) (Parent)

	text to barry. chillout 2017-03-31 12:26 am UTC (link)
	✉ ??? ✉ Sort of antiquated. Lots of paperwork. ✉ But this is coming from someone with a criminal record. ✉ They're fun to crash. (Reply to this) (Thread)

	return texts. portential 2017-03-31 12:33 am UTC (link)
	✉ Just curious. ✉ Since we escaped our weird, non-consensual marriages. ✉ Is there more paperwork if you have a criminal record? Or are you saying criminals don't like paperwork? ✉ Weddings can be nice. I guess. ✉ I mean they aren't the important thing, but parties are always fun. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

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chillout
2017-03-31 01:11 am UTC (link)

✉ Consent probably makes the whole thing more appealing.
✉ There's always more paperwork.
✉ But no, we don't like it.
✉ Especially paperwork that usually requires you to go to the courthouse.
✉ Active warrants could be a mood killer.
✉ I've only ever been to one's I wasn't invited too.
✉ You're right about the parties.
✉ I had a pretty bad example growing up so I'm not exactly an expert.

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portential
2017-03-31 01:14 am UTC (link)

✉ It definitely does.
✉ And yeah. I can see how that would be a problem. Nobody wants their wedding plans interrupted by an arrest.
✉ I haven't been to many. But I've seen them. You know. Pop culture loves weddings.
✉ My parents were a great example, before my mom died. They had the kind of marriage most people want.
✉ I always wanted something like that.
✉ But I get why you wouldn't, considering what your dad was like.

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chillout
2017-03-31 01:50 am UTC (link)

✉ It's an easy problem to avoid when you're not the type of person anyone wants to marry.
✉ Pop culture only shows you the pretty pictures.
✉ But your parents were probably a good example because they loved each other. That's the part that matters.
✉ The rest is just paper and jewelry. Maybe some tax breaks.
✉ At least that's the way I always saw it.
✉ Mom married dad because that's what you did when a baby was involved. Didn't turn out to be enough reason to stay.
✉ I'm guessing when you pictured something like that it probably wasn't with someone like me.

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portential
2017-04-11 01:48 am UTC (link)

✉ I think you're not giving yourself enough credit.
✉ I still have a video of my mom and dad's wedding. So that's a real one.
✉ Yeah. They really did.
✉ You're right. The important part is that the people involved love each other. Not the legal stuff.
✉ I'm sorry your parents weren't a good example.
✉ I don't know.
✉ I mean...literally I pictured Iris for most of my life.
✉ But in a less specific sense, I pictured someone I love, who makes me happy...and who I hopefully make them happy too, and who I want to be with for the rest of my life.
✉ You kind of fit the bill there.

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	return texts. chillout 2017-04-18 12:12 am UTC (link)
	✉ How about we stop dancing around what you're not asking me so you don't get too anxious. ✉ The answer is I'm not ready for something like that. ✉ But it doesn't mean I never will be. ✉ You make me happy and I love you. ✉ I probably don't say it enough. ✉ But I've never been very good at that. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	return texts. portential 2017-04-18 12:33 am UTC (link)
	✉ I'm actually pretty not-anxious about this. ✉ Shocking, I know. ✉ I get it. I do. ✉ And I sort of realized, while we were talking, that at the end of the day, our relationship is the important thing, not labels and paperwork. ✉ I love you too. ✉ And you say it plenty. (Reply to this) (Parent)