oberon/nyx.
Forgive me for not sewing you into the dress. Perhaps we can tighten it a bit on the big day.
It's been years, but I think you'll find that you'll be less eager to rip his heart out when you find out who he is. Or perhaps you don't know yet. Unfortunately, I'm not in the business of outing people who would rather stay in the closet.
So it's not him that is stopping you, but society's expectations of a wife's duty?